What I’ve learned at 21

Part I: Self-love

I’m pretty sure that we’ve all heard as children that we have to not only respect each other but ourselves. How important it is to love yourself, be yourself, be unique, and how it’s possible to accomplish the amazing dreams that you have.  All of this is very cliche stuff, right? Well it’s all true and I’ve always knew that but didn’t really understand why.  So I’m here to answer that question today: why is it so important to love yourself?

People are going to leave you and that’s okay.  One thing that never changes about life is its inconsistency.  Whether it’s a lost of a loved one or breaking up with a “best friend” losing people is inevitable in life.  What can you do about it?  Nothing, except accept it and learn things from those past relationships. In my life I’ve had a few people who I spent a great deal of time with but then  have never seen  again and I look back on those times, whether it was negative or positive era, and reflect.  I truly feel that God sends certain people in your life for a period of times just to show you things about yourself.   Yes, it can be really hard to lose people, but you can still take those experiences you’ve had and learn from them.  At the end of the day you’re always going to be there for you, which is one of the reasons you have to be able to love yourself. You know that saying don’t put  all your eggs in one basket, well in this case your eggs is your happiness and the basket is a person.  When that person exits your life it’s going to be a lot harder to heal.  That’s not to say you cannot love a person unconditionally, please don’t be afraid to love, because it’s one of life’s beauty, but just be aware to love yourself as well.  

Trying to derive ALL of your happiness from someone else’s company can be mentally draining on them.  This is particularly in reference to relationships with significant others.  When you go out in the world, looking for love, and you don’t love yourself already, then you probably won’t be successful at finding that special someone and holding onto them.  Think on this, how can you expect someone to love you if you don’t even love you?  If you’re always questioning and doubting yourself, eventually the other person will start to do the same, even if it is unconsciously. Be confident, be proud of all your “flaws”.  Embrace yourself so you’ll be able to embrace others and others can embrace you. ❤

It started out as your story, it’s going to end as your story.  None of us are the same, we all have our own story.  I don’t know about you but I think it’s pretty amazing how there are 7.1 billion people on this globe and not one of us has the same exact stories. Its one of God’s blessings, diversity.  There is nothing more uplifting than discovering new things about yourself, challenging yourself, finding out how far you can go, and what you can accomplish.   In the end when you leave this earth it’s only going to be your body, mind, and soul that will be with you. Celebrate this temple of yours you’ve been blessed with while you’re still here.  Every morning you wake up that’s a gift in itself because not everyone gets one more day, but you have.   Be someone that you love!

So that’s my answer.  I don’t know if you, yes you the reader, agree with them all or if you have more to add.  Leave a comment sharing your thoughts.  I’m not a professional of any sort these were just all  my thoughts on this topic, and I hoped you enjoyed reading it.  Wherever you are I hope you have a wonderful  day or night. Stay beautiful, stay true, stay you.  ❤

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